Thoughts on Friends

Note: Before I dive headfirst into this post, I want to take a moment to remember two brilliant actors that we lost this week. One of my heroes, Mary Tyler Moore, passed away on Wednesday. She was a brilliant actress who portrayed characters that inspired women everywhere. And also, John Hurt, who passed away on Friday. He portrayed many memorable characters, such as the Elephant Man, Olivander and the War Doctor. May we remember their brilliant work for years to come.

“So no one told you life was gonna be this way…”No, I’m not going to spend this whole post discussing the classic TV show Friends. I’ll save that for another post. The friends that I want to discuss are my friends. And, to some extent, your friends. Let me explain.

Think about your friends. Who are they? How did you meet? Why are you friends? Don’t dwell on these too long, you might hurt your brain, especially if you have a lot of friends.

For me, my friends are all kinds of people. Some are students, some are in ministry, some are nurses or therapists. I have friends that are juniors in high school and friends that are almost thirty years old. It helps that I have an old soul (aka, I have a tendency to act like I’m 64, so I get along with older crowds). I met them in all sorts of ways. But the best part is, when I first them, I didn’t know that we would be friends. I don’t think anyone meets a person and immediately knows that they’ll be friends. I didn’t know that these people would be such blessings in my life. That is something that I have discovered along the way. They have seen me on both my good and bad days. They have seen me when I’m being hard on myself for every choice I’ve ever made and they have seen me when I feel empowered and want to crush the patriarchy.

Friends are great treasures to have, aren’t they? They keep your secrets, they know your dreams, they listen to your rants. They see your dark side and yet still love you. Real friends, anyway. They’re there for you. And sometimes, they become more like family. If you ask my parents, I have one sister. If you ask me, I’m likely to say that I have one biological sister, five “adopted” sisters, and four “adopted” brothers. In my mind, my family is a lot bigger than what my parents think it is.

What this boils down to, is that you should thank your friends. Thank them for being there for you, for trusting you. Thank them for laughing at your stupid jokes. Thank them for offering a hug or a smile. Tell them that you love them, especially if you consider them family. Because friends are blessings and life is uncertain. Count your blessings and be thankful for them, before time runs out.

End of thought.

One more thing: You might be wondering why there is a picture of Mongolian chicken in this post. I had lunch with my friend Cambry yesterday. When we got our food, I whipped out my phone and asked her to forgive for being petty and taking a picture of said food. Her response: “No, go ahead. Actually, you should blog it.” So shout out to Cambry for suggesting I blog my Chinese food. You rock.20170127_111543

Thoughts on Thinking

You know what I do a lot of? Thinking. Actually, I probably do too much of it. Why do I think that? See, there I go again with the thinking. I over think. I over think a lot. Like, I’m pretty sure I could be a PhD in over thinking. And in procrastinating. And impatience. Unfortunately, I can’t get a PhD in any of those things *sighs audibly*.

Lately, I’ve been over thinking every aspect of my life. Trying to figure out my future, mostly. What school I’m going to transfer to, if my major is really what I’m meant to do and other things. And then there’s the fact that sometimes I feel utterly useless, like I’m just stuck at a point and there is no growth. I’m really good at over thinking that and letting it drag me down. And of course, the age-old question: why am I single? I’m good at finding a thousand things “wrong” with me. Although, I have gotten to a point where I’m usually able to turn those things into assets.

But I realized today that my over thinking was making me miserable. Something had to change. So I got back on my mat. I used to do yoga a lot and I loved it. But I haven’t been on the mat since August, which is kind of disappointing. Today I took a few minutes to revisit my favorite poses and then meditate. And you know what? It was great. I’m currently staring at a stack of homework, but I’m not stressed about it. Nor have I weighed all the possible outcomes of the math test that I took this morning. Actually, I’m feeling really good about that test.  I’m just in a nice, relaxed mood right now.

Looks like I’ve found a new goal for myself. To get back on the mat. Probably not everyday, but more often than I had been (which was never). To take some time to breathe and find a little peace. To slow my brain down. To stop over thinking.

End of thought.

 

Thoughts on Talent…

Talent. What is it? A three second Google search tells me that talent is a noun that means natural aptitude or skill. So for anyone who wants a textbook definition, there you go. Everyone has a talent. Maybe it’s writing or playing a sport or dancing. Maybe your talent is being super crazy organized. If that is your talent, please come organize my life, thanks. Maybe your talent is being a good listener. Everyone has a talent. Many people may have the same, general talent. Example: there are many talented dancers. But how they express their talent is what makes it their own. Michael Jackson and Fred Astaire were both very gifted dancers, but one was not a carbon copy of the other. They had their own styles, their own ways of expressing their talent.

Harnessing your talent can be tricky. You may know that you have some sort of ability but have no idea how to put it into action. What you have to understand about talent, is that it’s a gift that has been woven into your soul by whatever higher power you believe in. When you use your talent, you are reflecting your passions, choices, loyalties and dreams. You are reflecting your soul. It’s apart of your identity. To say that you don’t have a talent is to say that you have no identity.

Reflecting your soul…ok, that’s kind of a scary concept. That’s an intimate thing to put on display. What would make a person want to do that? One word: muse. It’s what gives you inspiration to create, to do. Maybe your muse is your soul mate, or your favorite place on earth, or a concept like peace. Whatever inspires you is your muse. Having a muse makes it easier to reflect your soul. For me, my muse changes from project to project. It’s usually a person. When I’m playing with an idea, I notice that certain memories begin to click with it. As the process continues, I can usually pick out a person that is most associated with these ideas. Something about them resonates with my project. Next thing you know, I have my muse. It’s different for everyone, but whatever you are doing, having a muse helps.

Don’t be scared to display your talents. Find your muse. Do the work. Reflect your soul. Create new beauty in the midst of our crazy existence. Be the best, most unique you that you can be.

End of thought.

Pretty in pink.:

Image courtesy of: tumblr.refinery29.com

 

Thoughts on Resolutions…

Welcome to 2017! My New Year’s Eve was a blast, just so everyone knows. My friend threw a party and we played Apples to Apples, drank a lot of sparkling grape juice, watched Star Trek (the original series), and watched the ball drop. And then we watched half of a SNL re-run.

Now, a lot of people make New Year’s resolutions. And I’m usually one of them. Usually my resolution is “lose weight.” That’s a resolution that I probably share with countless other people. And that’s not necessarily a bad resolution. But a bunch of people, myself included, don’t stick with it.

My resolution for 2017 had been to not make a resolution. If that makes sense. And then my favorite blogger, Adam Rose, released a video. Yes, I know I talked about him in my last post. But he’s really great and super inspirational. You should all go check him out. Adam Rose. He was on Supernatural and many other things. He’s cool. Moving on!

Basically, he mentioned that this year he’s not going to be working out in order to get a six pack, he’s working out to feel good and to work towards a healthy lifestyle. And I decided to follow his advice.

This year, I’m going to workout and eat better. It’s not so I can lose weight. It’s so I can feel good in my own skin. I’m a stress eater and I want to replace that. Whenever I’m feeling stressed, I want to do something other than eat. I want blog or draw or drink tea. Maybe drink tea. That sounds good. I also want to start journaling. I guess it’s just a more private form of blogging. We’ll see how that goes. I just want to be a better me.

Anyway, I guess what I’m saying is that your resolutions should be things that will benefit you in the long run. Take more risks. Incorporate exercise into your daily routine. But above all, be the best you you can be. Happy 2017.

End of thought.

 

Thoughts on the Past, Present and Future…

“Let’s start the new year right, twelve o’clock tonight…” Best New Year’s Eve song ever. Just sayin’.

Gosh, it’s been a crazy year. For the world and me personally. Let’s remind ourselves of what happened in 2016. Don’t hate me for it.

  1. 2016 was the year where everyone died. At least, that’s how it seemed. Prince, Alan Rickman (balled my eyes out in the middle of band when I heard), David Bowie, Carrie Fisher, George Michael, Glenn Frey, Florence Henderson, Gwen Ifil, Leonard Cohen, Gene Wilder, Muhammad Ali, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Elie Wiesel, Debbie Reynolds….it’s a really big list and I’m depressing myself just writing about it.
  2. 2016 was the year where everyone lost their minds. The election. That’s all I’m going to say.
  3. 2016 was the year of uncertainty. We all recognized that life is short. I had to face the fact that I don’t have complete control over my own life. My plans went all askew and I had to learn to live with that.

But you know what else 2016 was? It was the year of great experiences. I made some great friends who have proven to be a blessing. The bond I already had with my friends strengthened. They were all there for me when my life went off track and I can never thank them enough for what they did. I went to some incredible concerts. I saw 2Cellos, Mumford and Sons (I was right on the floor for that one), Relient K and Switchfoot (right in front of the stage). My cousin got married and so did one of my best friends. I listened to the Hamilton soundtrack countless times. And most importantly, I realized that this wasn’t the worst year of my life.

So many bad things happened in 2016 that it’s hard to call it anything other than “the worst year ever.” I’m not going to argue that this was the year of Major Global Suck. But if I’m being completely honest, it wasn’t the worst year ever. I spent so much time focusing on the negatives. I had a hard time counting my blessings. And then on Tuesday, one of my favorite YouTubers, Adam Rose put up a vlog entitled ‘2016 WORST YEAR EVER’.

That video flipped my perspective. In short, Adam Rose basically said that 2016 was the best year of his life and it was a choice. We can choose happiness and we can choose to look for the light in the darkness. I had made the choice to let 2016 be the worst year ever. If we all took time to reflect on our year, we all might notice that some pretty great things happened. Does it change the fact that a crap ton of bad things happened this year? No. But it can change our outlook for 2017.

For the new year, let’s keep our minds open and our hearts full of love. Let’s look for the good and spread happiness. Let’s work to end the Major Global Suck. Let’s make the choice to make 2017 the best year ever. Let’s do it.

See you in the new year. End of thought.

Click this link to watch Adam Rose’s vlog ‘2016 WORST YEAR EVER’  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UHTWNs6-cAU

Five minutes to midnight. That's where the Doomsday Clock is now. Enjoy RushWorld boards, UNBURNT OFFERINGS RUSHWORLD DAILY MESSAGE, UNPREDICTABLE WOMEN HAUTE COUTURE and GHOSTLAND SCENES OF ABANDONMENT. See you at RushWorld on Pinterest! New content daily, always something you'll want to share.:

Image courtesy of jensawesomeworld.tumblr

 

Welcome, Old Friends

Hello! Welcome! What do you think of the new place? Do you like it? I do. The layout is easier on the little grey cells (the brain) and the eyes, of course. Don’t forget, if you want to read old posts, you can do so by going to the ‘About’ page and clicking on the link to the Archive. That’s really all I have to say. Thanks for sticking with me, it means a lot. Enjoy.

End of thought.